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Proverbs 31:10-31  

"Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

She will do him good and no evil all the days of her life.

She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

She is like the merchants' ship; she bringeth her food from afar.

She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a
portion to her maidens.

She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are
clothed with scarlet.

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to coem.

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord,
she shall be praised.

Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates."

Proverbs 31:10-31

Chisty's Brother Mathew asked to have this read at her service
He truly looked up to and loved his sister dearly

A letter Christy Wrote to help others Dealing with preterm Labor  

I am a young mother of three relatively healthy boys, but it didn't start out that way. Not all pregnancies are as easy as morning sickness, crazy cravings & the usual labor & deliver. There are those who are like me. Bed rest, long hospital stays on medication, fear of what could go wrong, emotional stress & leaving baby behind after delivery. You see I have an incompetent cervix. It is weak & starts to open early in my pregnancy. For those who maybe first timers, this means my cervix starts to dilate & I start contracting.

My first son I had at age eighteen, I was confused & scared. I went into labor & delivered him at 32 weeks gestation. He was born with APNEA. This is where the baby forgets to breathe for a period of 10-20 seconds. My son was taken from me before I could even hold him. He was rushed to the N.I.C.U. (neonatal intensive care unit) placed on a ventilator, heart monitor, an IV for fluids & a feeding tube. I can't describe how awful it was to see that 4lbs. 6oz. tiny baby boy laying in an incubator with all these machines to help him live. I ached inside! I couldn't hold him, & when I could it was only for 5 minutes if that, because we had to maintain his body temperature. My now 9-year-old son came home from the hospital 4 weeks after his birth & was kept on a heart monitor for 2 months. He developed R.S.V. a deadly virus that almost took his life. R.S.V. is Respiratory Syncitial Virus it is sort of like a really bad cold, but much worse & very serious. Preemies are at high risk for developing this virus & if you have a preemie you should speak with your doctor on ways to avoid this virus. My son was hospitalized for 5 days & kept in a medicated plastic tent for 18 hours a day. I am happy to say he is now healthy, only suffering from a slight learning disability, but what about my other 2 sons, will they be healthy or will there be complications as they grow??

With my second son I started dilating at 28 weeks & was placed on Terbutaline Sulfate tablets to control my contractions. At 31 weeks I was hospitalized for 10 days & placed on Magnesium Sulfate to stop the contractions. I was then sent home on bed rest, 3 weeks later at 35 weeks gestation I delivered a 4lbs. 9oz. baby boy who required a feeding tube for one week & then was released. The hardest part was leaving that sweet baby boy in an incubator everyday when it was time to go home. He is now 2 years old & seems to be slow in the vocabulary department. Is this a result of being early or is it a side effect from the medications I was on? Will there be other problems?

Now we are at my third son. He is now 4 weeks old. Seems to be very healthy. He is gaining weight & nursing well. I went into pre-term labor at 20 weeks this time. I was placed once again on Terbutaline. This kept things under control for a while. I was placed on complete bed rest. At my job I was only offered F.M.L.A. (family medical leave act) this protected my job for 12 weeks, but once that ran out I had to apply for a leave of absence. Not to mention F.M.L.A. is non paid leave. I used all my sick, personal & vacation time first, but once that was gone I had no income. I urge you to check with your boss to see what kind of maternity leave you have. I was in & out of the hospital weekly with lapses of labor requiring 3 additional injections of Terbutaline on top of what I was taking in pill form. Finally at 28 weeks I was hospitalized & placed on Magnesium Sulfate through an IV. I stayed in the hospital for 7 weeks. I stayed through Christmas, my sons birthday party, & New Years. I had to here about my 2 year olds sicknesses & bumps & bruises over the phone. I only saw my boys on the weekends if they were all well. It was very lonely & sometimes all I wanted to do was cry. I wanted so much to hug my kids & play with them. To love my husband & share my bed with him. The nurses all came to my room & were very nice. They helped answer any questions I had, talked to me & kept me company. Some of them even gave me presents at Christmas! Everyone wondered how I stayed in such good spirits & seemed to be in such a good mood all the time. I told them it was because in life we are given choices 1)To let yourself suffer in self pity thinking only of your self & how much you dislike being away from home, your normal routine, being able to move about as you please & thinking about how painful being pricked every 6 hours to test your magnesium levels in your blood & having steroid shots in the legs & having your IV's moved every 72 hours or 2) Pray, if you believe in GOD, trust that prayer & know you are doing what is best for your baby & that is to keep him in your Uterus for as long as possible. I chose #2. I believe prayer works & as much as I fear needles & hate being escorted to the bathroom & being limited on my movements I knew I was helping my baby. The steroid shots help my baby's lungs to develop, the magnesium made me sick, gave me blurred vision & made my muscles weak, but it kept my contractions under control. Finally at 35 weeks gestation the doctor said I could go home. Still on bed rest it wasn't until my 38th week gestation that my baby boy arrived. This time it was quick & fairly easy. I delivered in 1 hour 45 minutes completely natural. No drugs or painkillers & no episiotomy either. I was so proud! My baby boy was 5lbs. 9oz. & left the hospital with me. It felt so wonderful to hold him & nurse him whenever I wanted to or when he was ready!! I can't explain the joy I felt.

Please if you are going through pre-term or high risk pregnancy find faith in yourself, trust your God, & know you are doing what is best for you & your baby. It is better to keep baby inside than to leave a sick baby at the hospital. Know that your friends & relatives are there for you & they love you. Ask them to help by doing chores, cooking, shopping, bringing you books, puzzles, or crafts & tell them to call & visit you as much as possible. If you are a church member notify them that you would like a weekly visit from the church. Most churches have specific members who will come to visit; pray & where practiced they will bring & administer Holy Communion.
I hope I have shed some light & comfort to those who needed it!

March 16, 2000

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